Any time a man changes your status from lover to friend, its
time to get yourself OUT of the relationship pronto!
Remember, this is a rejection of you as someone he is
sexually attracted to!
It is a down grade of your relationship status and it is
an insult.
Why would you hang on and accept this?
Women must at all times project self worth.
By accepting whatever terms he says he wants, just to cling
to a man at some level, any level, communicates the message that you are
desperate to be connected to him, and will settle for whatever relationship crumbs he has to
offer you.
If you are looking for an exclusive monogamous loving relationship,
then you must keep that goal in sight at all times and do not accept or waste
time on anything that does not match up to that goal.
You do not have to exhaust your limited emotional energy
reserves, by engaging in “friend” interactions with a man with whom you have
had, or want to have, a romantic loving relationship with, but who does not at present want that with you any more. This is a drain on
the energy needed to focus on getting out there, looking and feeling your best,
and connecting with men who ARE interested in you romantically.
Do NOT waste time analyzing his inner thoughts and motives
and trying to project what possible beneficial outcome might ultimately result
by staying friends with a man that you love and want more with.
In fact, the one and only motivation for such a man to re- kindle his lost sexual attraction to you, is for him to feel that he may lose
you.
If and when he realizes that you have moved on, and that other men are interested in
you, a sense of urgency may kick in,
and he might just reevaluate his feelings towards you.
In general, a woman who hangs around waiting and hoping for friendly
feelings to morph into romantic feelings, is wasting her valuable time.
Any woman who is with a man who is dragging his feet about
commitment, month after month, year after year, is also wasting her time, big
time!
The hunter/ gatherer instinct that each and every male possesses
in his DNA from time immemorial, is lulled into complacency by that which is
easy to come by.
The male wants and needs a challenge.
The male wants and needs
to work for his target (you).
He enjoys his reward only if he has had to strive
to achieve it!
It is the elusive Doe peeking from behind the bramble that
gets his attention, and not the road kill lying there for the taking on his
street!
You want your man to feel a sense of urgency!
You want him
to feel that you are valuable and desirable, and that if he doesn’t step up his game,
then you will be snapped up by some other lucky dude.
So please don’t serve yourself up on a platter to any man by
being overly available, accepting terms for a relationship that don’t suit you,
accepting any bad or thoughtless behaviors, or accepting no commitment from him
if at least 6 months has elapsed since you began dating.
Listen to his words.
If he tells you he is not ready or that
he wants to be friends, get your game on, and get out of there!
Throw a smile
on your face, (you may have to “Fake it till you make it”) and make yourself
available to the many worthy loving men out there in the world just waiting to
meet you.
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