You Can't Make Him Love You or Want You!

You can’t make him love you by trying to convince him how great you are.

Lately I have been receiving emails from women wondering:

 What can  they do to get a guy they have set their sights on?

 I have an email from a woman who feels that the man she likes would be way better off with her, than with his current girlfriend, and she wants my advice on how to get him to realize that. She intends to fight for him and to point out to him that his girlfriend is nowhere near as good for him as she is.

 She has a whole list of reasons why this is so.

No man will break it off with his GF and choose you instead because you have pointed out to him all the ways you think you are better for him than she is. (Even if you are prettier than his GF.)

If he wanted to go out with you he would have chased you until he got you!

It is a terrible idea to attempt to convince a guy that you are better for him than his girlfriend because his automatic and natural response to attacking his girlfriend will be to defend her and to become disgusted by you. 

Much like cave man days, he will protect his cave and its inhabitants.

I have emails from women who have fallen for their own male friends, with whom they now want more than a platonic relationship. 

How can they get the guy to want more too? 

Some of them have been having “friend sex” and wonder how to get out of the Friend Zone and into a romance. 

Is that possible? NO! 

Once you have handed over the goodies to a guy, without making him earn your love and your body, its Game Over. 

Why would he chase after and value something that was just given to him without him having to make any effort to woo and win her?

Others are wondering how to let a particular man know that they like him and would like him to ask them out.

Well the most you can do in this case is to smile and flirt a bit when you see him, but that’s it!

The answer to all such questions is, you can’t get a guy to love you (or want you).

If a man knows you, sees you around, has hung out with you,  and yet  has chosen another woman for a partner, or if a man has been your platonic friend and has been content in that role, or if you have made the dreadful mistake of sleeping with him as “just friends”,  then there is absolutely nothing that you can do to reverse that role.

Love and attraction are not logical. They are entirely emotional.

No man will suddenly desire  you sexually after  you have been hanging out as platonic friends for a long time, and NO guy will suddenly decide that the casual sex friend should be his GF!

 And the reason for all of the above is the same reason that I have been trying to teach you in my Red Flag Man Blogs.

 Men only value what they must work to have and will only desire what they must strive to achieve.

Cheap and easy  is not appealing.

The allure is in the hunt and in the chase. 

The sexy thrill is in the capture after the struggle to win her over.

If you take away the struggle, the hunt and the chase, then its Game Over.

If you still don’t believe me, then try it your way and let me know what happens.

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