Ask Not Why He Does It - Dump Him Instead

We have always heard that the only person we can change is ourselves.

 But do we absorb that information? Do we really internalize it?

No!

Instead we fall in love with someone whose flaws drive us crazy, and then we spend our time making ourselves even more crazy trying to figure out why he does what he does!

You love your boyfriend but you are upset because he:

Is always late

He lies

He cheats

He drinks

He is emotionally or physically abusive

He disappears for days or weeks at a time and then returns as though nothing has happened

He is cheap

He smokes or drinks or does drugs

He gambles

He has double standards - expecting behaviors and virtues from you that he doesn’t display himself

You struggle to understand him and why he acts the way he does

- Why he talks to you the way he does or why he walks away from you the way he does?

You read up on personality types and what makes them tick and how you can get along with them and why they are the way they are.

You consult a therapist to figure out how to “handle” your boyfriend. ($$$)

Girl, he is not the problem! The problem is that you are choosing to be with Mr. Wrong!

Why are you attracted to him?

Why are you sticking with him when you should have thrown in the towels ages ago?

What are YOUR issues? That is the only question you should be asking,  and YOU are the only person you should be working on fixing.

If he is screwed up, yet you keep sticking with him and wondering how to make it better, then you better take a good look at yourself and ask WHY are you putting up with this behavior?

If you are are attracted to a man whose behavior makes you unhappy then please spend your time and money on trying to find out what your underlying issues are.

 Mr. Right will feel Right and you wont have to research or reform him.

Its Not Him! - Its You and Why You Want Him

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