Are You a Love Option

Are you a love option?

Rob came on strong, hot and heavy right from the get-go.

He was reaching for Betsy ‘s hand and smothering her with kisses on date #1.

In 4 days they saw each other 4 times and each time was more intense and exciting than the last.

Betsy and Rob had lots in common and also a strong physical attraction to each other.

Could this be "THE ONE"??

He told her he was in love with her on date #3!

However, he mentioned that he felt they should still date others…. After all, they had only just met, he was newly divorced and he felt he owed it to himself to explore his options.

He is an out of towner and was headed back to his home town, several hours away by plane.

The first time they spoke on the phone after he had gotten back home, he told her he had to return very soon to see her because he would miss her too much.

In his next call he said he wasn't sure when he would be able to get back to her area..

Fortunately, Betsy had been following my blog and also consulting with me on how to identify Red Flags in any new relationship.

I encouraged Betsy to take everything Rob said with a grain of salt and to keep her options open for business.

Rob’s enthusiasm seemed to wane in the following weeks as his calls stopped and his texts petered out.

He was obviously keeping busy somehow..

Betsy kept busy with work and life and also continued to date others. She never initiated any contact at all with Rob.

Then, magically - his texts started up again! He would soon be back in town. Could they get together? He would “love to see her”.

Betsy remained polite but demure.

She would be” pretty busy “at the time he would be in town, and she would have to “see whats happening” by the time he got to her area again.

Betsy had a great grasp of the red flags here. Rob’s erratic behavior also struck her as arrogant.

Was she going to be his “make out date” whenever he was in town?

  NO WAY!

Once a man proclaims his love for a woman, if he is serious about her, he must focus on her and only her. He must set out to win her over. If he is still looking over his shoulder to see the next best thing coming his way, then he is not serious, not to be trusted, not focused on her and not ready to commit. He is a player.

Be very cautious about getting caught up with a man whose words and actions do not line up.

Remove yourself from the equation.