STAY AWAY FROM YOUR CRUSH AND HIS RELATIONSHIP!

I have been getting lots of emails lately,  from women complaining to me that their boyfriends have female friends who try to undermine their relationships. 

They ask me if this is normal and acceptable.

The answer is NO.

I get emails from women who are that friend!

They are the friend of a man who is dating another woman.

They want their friend to drop his girlfriend and to date them instead, and they ask me how they can open the eyes of their male friend so that he will realize that he should be with them, rather than with his girlfriend.

The answer is – YOU CAN’T DO IT.

So to let me be perfectly clear.

When a couple is in an exclusive relationship, there should not be any female interference with that relationship.

No man should allow another woman to undermine his romantic relationship, to criticize his girlfriend, to flirt with him, or to in any way try to cause distance between himself and his girlfriend.

If he does allow such behavior he is not worth your time.

The mark of a good man is his desire to protect the woman he loves.

 If he prefers to be on an ego trip, allowing women to compete for him, you don’t need to be on this ride!

After all, if he jumps ship to be with any woman who flirts with him, then what have you got? 

You have got yourself a shallow player who you can never trust.

As for the women who want me to teach them how to show a man that he is better off with them than with his GF, this is an impossible task and it is also a ridiculous request.

Anyone who follows the RED FLAG MAN BLOG knows by now that men get turned off big time by  women who come on strong, initiate contact, romance him, pursue him,  do things for him, show up to “accidentally bump into him”,etc.  

You simply cannot prove to a man that you are better  for him than his GF.

Men enjoy and crave a challenge. They are wired from time immemorial to go out there and hunt for what they want.

Woman who throw themselves at a man hoping he will suddenly wake up and value them, or dump their girlfriends and choose them instead, are in for a rude awakening!

Keep away from men in relationships.  They are off limits to you.

Stop fantasizing about how to break up your Crush’s relationship and go get yourself a guy who is into YOU!

Exude confidence, independence and self-value.

That is the one and the only way attract Mr. Right to you.

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Don't Go Crazy Trying to Rope Him In!

Yes you SHOULD always look your best for your BF or husband.

 Yes you SHOULD work out, eat healthy, and wear nice appealing outfits!

I am not saying its ok to hang out in sweats with no makeup eating junk food on the couch!

What I AM  saying is that you have value for being the person you are, and the man who is right for you will love and adore you, and you cannot make a man love you.

Either your guy loves you or he doesn’t. 

If your guy is drifting apart from you, and you have discussed it, and nothing has changed, then back away. 

Never come on strong with extra attempts to entice and delight him. 

Do the opposite. 

Vanish!

A man must be the pursuer through every phase of your relationship. He must court you. He must call you and plan dates.

If you try to plan dates, create magical candlelit dinners or entertain and monopolize him he will be turned off and pull away.

Just be your own cute fun self and that’s it.

If your guy isn’t into you, then move right on. 

No acts of desperation. No stalking. No suggestions for get togethers, NADA.

Please don't cheapen yourself girl!

If he misses you he knows where to find you and if he isn’t into spending time with you then you don’t need him.

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