Struggling to sustain a long distance romance?
It can be frustrating to face lonely days and nights alone, while in an exclusive long distance romantic relationship.
It’s a bummer to attend social events solo.
Its rough to see that empty pillow next to you in bed night after night and
week after week.
What makes it easier to bear, is being able to look forward to the
next scheduled visit, knowing when you
two will see each other next, and hopefully, it should never be more than 3
weeks in the future.
It takes great effort on the part of both people in the
relationship, to maintain the momentum and spark, by making sure that more than
3 weeks doesn’t go by without one of you visiting the other.
(Of course I am not talking about a partner serving in the
military for an extended period of time. I am talking only about dating couples
who live a great distance apart and who have the freedom to hop on a plane to
see their sweetheart.)
Its also impossible to really get to know someone without
the daily interaction that only frequent proximity can offer.
In the meantime, there should be frequent text, calls and
Video chatting.
If a man has asked you to be exclusive, but isn’t making the
effort to visit you with enough frequency, then we have to question if this is
a sustainable relationship?
Carving out time to visit his lady should be his number 1
priority.
If for some reason he can’t get away, then he should be
offering to fly you in to spend a long weekend with him.
If he is neither coming to see you, nor arranging for you to go
see him, then -
Houston, We Have a Problem!
The man who is not making these visits his #1 priority is
either:
Trying to Control you while he explores his options
Actively seeing other women
Not that crazy about you
If the weeks are slipping by and you are speaking to your boyfriend
each night and hearing “I love you” from him, but he is cool to not actually
see you, touch you, hold you and kiss you for the next 8 weeks, then something is off.
If a vase of flowers is delivered to your door on your
birthday, but he is hanging out at his place 1200 miles away when he could have
spent your birthday with you, then you should be questioning the quality of the
relationship as well as just how invested in your future he really is.
Lets face the truth.
A man who loves a woman will move
heaven and earth to be with her.
Don’t settle for less than that.
If he isn’t making regular plans to see you each month, don’t
try to convince him, don’t beg and don’t
plead with him.
Instead, realize that he just isn’t that into you and move
on girl.
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