Do Relationships Come with Warning Signs?

Yes!

We are not victims; we are exercising our option to get involved with Mr. Wrong.

No, people don’t come with warning labels, but they do come with warning signs, namely, Red Flags.

My upcoming book Red Flag Man will educate women on how to recognize and interpret the warning signs always present, so that they avoid plunging into no -win relationships that will end in heartbreak.

- Lauren went onto a Dating site and was messaged by Jay, who promptly informed her that they were meant to be and that he was going to "Rock her world"

. Flowers and limos soon appeared at her door and pressure to commit to Jay after two weeks of knowing him began to mount.

Why the hurry? (what did he have to hide??)

Instead of running for the hills, she allowed herself to be drawn in by his grand gestures and ended up in a quickie nightmare marriage with an explosive, deranged lunatic, requiring expensive expert legal help to extricate herself from.

- Besty was introduced to Carl by a mutual friend .She noticed that when she mentioned his name to people who knew him well, they became uncomfortable, nervous or silent. Some of them mentioned that he had anger issues.. but that didn't jive with the romantic warm hearted man she thought she was being swept off her feet by, and whisked away on trips with, so she ignored those murmurs and plunged right in, only to find herself controlled, lied to, betrayed and ultimately broken hearted.

- Rebecca wasn't overly impressed with Fred when she met him. He seemed to be an underachiever stuck in a time warp, but she was lonely and felt she had nothing to lose. She allowed herself to be drawn into a mediocre relationship but felt this was better than nothing. She went on to waste 4 years of her time trying to get him to clean up his act, stop smoking dope and progress their stalled relationship. Then she finally gave up and convinced herself she was better off alone.

- Gina was warned by several people that her new boyfriend was well known around town as a player who cant commit to any women and who is always looking over his shoulder for "the next best thing". She convinced herself that with her things would be different and that she had attributes those other women didn't posses. Its been two years and he still cant commit to signing on the dotted line. He cites the fact that she has children as the obstacle in his path to commitment.

Hey, didn't he know about the kids from day one?

What do all these ladies have in common? They were all exposed to all of the information they needed, right from the start, to avoid the hurt and disappointment that they all went on to experience.

 The savy girl will read Red Flag Man and will learn to decipher the language of the Commitment phobe, the signs of the Passive Pot Head, the Unobtainable Dream Boat and the Borderline Personality, as well as many other Red Flag types.

Stay tuned as I give you some pointers on those sweeties best avoided, each week in my Blog!