What to Do if You get Downgraded to FRIEND?

Any time a man changes your status from lover to friend, its time to get yourself OUT of the relationship pronto!

Remember, this is a rejection of you as someone he is sexually attracted to!

 It is a down grade of your relationship status and it is an insult.

Why would you hang on and accept this?

Women must at all times project self worth.

By accepting whatever terms he says he wants, just to cling to a man at some level, any level, communicates the message that you are desperate to be connected to him, and will settle for whatever relationship crumbs he has to offer you.

If you are looking for an exclusive monogamous loving relationship, then you must keep that goal in sight at all times and do not accept or waste time on anything that does not match up to that goal.

You do not have to exhaust your limited emotional energy reserves, by engaging in “friend” interactions with a man with whom you have had, or want to have, a romantic loving relationship with, but who does not at present want that with you any more. This is a drain on the energy needed to focus on getting out there, looking and feeling your best, and connecting with men who ARE interested in you romantically.

Do NOT waste time analyzing his inner thoughts and motives and trying to project what possible beneficial outcome might ultimately result by staying friends with a man that you love and want more with.

In fact, the one and only motivation for such a man to re- kindle his lost sexual attraction to you, is for him to feel that he may lose you. 

If  and when he realizes that you have moved on, and that other men are interested in you, a sense of urgency may kick in, and he might just reevaluate his feelings towards you.

In general, a woman who hangs around waiting and hoping for friendly feelings to morph into romantic feelings, is wasting her valuable time.

Any woman who is with a man who is dragging his feet about commitment, month after month, year after year, is also wasting her time, big time!

The hunter/ gatherer instinct that each and every male possesses in his DNA from time immemorial, is lulled into complacency by that which is easy to come by.

 The male wants and needs a challenge. 

The male wants and needs to work for his target (you).

 He enjoys his reward only if he has had to strive to achieve it!

It is the elusive Doe peeking from behind the bramble that gets his attention, and not the road kill lying there for the taking on his street!

You want your man to feel a sense of urgency! 

You want him to feel that you are valuable and desirable, and that if he doesn’t step up his game, then you will be snapped up by some other lucky dude.

So please don’t serve yourself up on a platter to any man by being overly available, accepting terms for a relationship that don’t suit you, accepting any bad or thoughtless behaviors, or accepting no commitment from him if at least 6 months has elapsed since you began dating.

Listen to his words. 

If he tells you he is not ready or that he wants to be friends, get your game on, and get out of there! 

Throw a smile on your face, (you may have to “Fake it till you make it”) and make yourself available to the many worthy loving men out there in the world just waiting to meet you.

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