Tip of the Day!
THE RED FLAG MAN: TIMELESS DAING ADVICE ON WHO TO AVOID AND WHY
By Brenda Samuel (available on Amazon)
Monday, April 1, 2024
Wednesday, February 28, 2024
Sunday, February 11, 2024
see my chapter entitled:
The Master of the Mixed Message
The Red Flag Man: Timeless Dating Advice on Who to Avoid and Why
by Brenda Samuel
(Now available on Amazon)
Learn the signs and signals of
The Master of the Mixed Message
what this MO will mean for your relationship and
what, if any, prospects for a positive outcome can be achieved with this guy!
Am happy to answer your questions - No Charge!
Monday, October 9, 2023
Wednesday, July 12, 2023
Above is a recent post from Instagram
In this post Christian Walker is trying to get the same message across as I am, in my blog and in my new book:
The Red Flag Man: Timeless Dating Advice on Who to Avoid and Why by Brenda Samuel
Ladies!
Please learn this lesson well.!
Unless you maintain standards and project self confidence and self worth, you will NEVER have a satisfying romantic relationship.
So unless all you care about is hooking up and moving on, please heed this advice well and practice it.
Men are always attracted to women with high standards.
I am here to respond to your questions and offer guidance.
(No charge)
Brenda
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Monday, July 3, 2023
Do not make excuses for your guy such as:
" he is busy"
" he is broke",
"he is working hard",
or ANY other excuse!
When a man is really into a woman he makes her his top priority!
NOTHING can keep him from seeing her, texting her, calling her and spending money on her.
In my new book The Red Flag Man: Timeless Dating advice on Who to Avoid and Why
I teach you how to spot the guys you are better off without and how to attract the right guy!
The main message is always exhibit SELF WORTH and SELF RESPECT!!
This of course means never accepting bad treatment or disrespect!
Tuesday, May 16, 2023
KNOW YOUR OWN WORTH AND PROJECT THE FACT THAT YOU KNOW IT!
IF YOUR GUY IS LAZY AND NOT MOTIVATED TO MAKE PLANS OR TO MAKE YOU HAPPY THEN YOU CAN DO BETTER GIRL!
IT IS IMPORTANT TO KNOW AND TO PROJECT YOUR VALUE BY NOT ACCEPTING A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEBODY WHO IS NOT EXCITED TO BE WITH YOU AND TO DO THINGS TO PLEASE YOU.
GIVE HIM A WAKE UP CALL AND START SEEING OTHER PEOPLE!
For more on this topic go onto Amazon and get my new book:
The Red Flag Man: Timeless Dating Advice on Who to Avoid and Why
by Brenda Samuel
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Saturday, April 29, 2023
Friday, April 28, 2023
Another tip from Brenda Samuel, author of new hit book
THE RED FLAG MAN: TIMELESS DATING ADVICE ON WHO TO AVOID AND WHY
Ladies never waste a minute of your time if you find yourself wondering if your BF is or is not into you!
Unless it is ovvious to you that you are loved and adored- MOVE ON NOW!
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Friday, March 10, 2023
Ladies!
Unless you are feeling LOVED, ADORED AND TREASURED by your guy, move ON!
Learn all about projecting the EVER IMPORTANT Self Confidence and Self Worth that is essential for you to enjoy a HEALTHY Relationship!
My New Book:
The Red Flag Man: Timeless Dating Advice on Who to Avoid and Why
By Brenda Samuel
Is available NOW on Amazon!
Thursday, March 2, 2023
IN MY NEW BOOK,:
THE RED FLAG MAN: TIMELESS DATING ADVICE ON WHO TO AVOID AND WHY
Mixed signals and avoidance about answering questions related to where you stand are avoidance techniques!
In the end it means he is not ready to commit to you!
Move on girlfriend.
You have bigger fish to fry and no time to waste on unsure guys!
I am happy to answer your relationship questions here on the blog.
No charge!
The book The Red Flag Man: Timeless Dating Advice on Who to Avoid and Why is available now on Amazon!
Saturday, February 4, 2023
It's SO IMPORTANT to project SELF WORTH!
Don't accept crappy behavior from your guy.
Walk away and prepare for Mr. Right.
When you stick around in an unhealthy relationship you are wasting your time and more importantly, you are teaching your partner that you do not feel that you deserve better!
So get on Amazon and read my new book
THE RED FLAG MAN:TIMELESS DATING ADVICE ON WHO TO AVOID AND WHY
by Brenda Samuel
And REMEMBER - I am here to answer your questions and offer you my insights!
Saturday, January 14, 2023
Learn how to spot relationship Busters
Learn how to avoid Heartache!
Read my new book
The Red Flag Man
(now available on Amazon)
and get educated
*Is he a Narcissist?
*Does he mess you up with Mixed Messages?
*Is he a "Mama's Boy" that cannot make a move without mom?
*Can he commit?
How to identify these Red Flags and more in your relationship and how to attract Mr. Right are the key things I write about!
Am happy to answer your questions here (no charge)
Saturday, December 3, 2022
The Red Flag Man
by
Brenda Samuel
Now Available on Amazon
Right on time for the Holidays!
Treat yourself and all the ladies on your holiday list to the information they need to
Find and Keep
The Right guy and to AVOID The Red Flag Man!
Learn to identify the warning signs of a wrong relationship and to recognize and cultivate a great one!
*I am available to answer your relationship questions here - no charge
Sunday, July 24, 2022
The Red Flag Man
Timeless Dating Advice on Who to Avoid and Why
by
Brenda Samuel
Are you in a relationship and going nuts trying to fiqure out WHAT'S GOING ON?
What does it mean when your guy does or says this or that?
Does he GHOST you all of a sudden for no apparant reason?
Did he come on sSUPER STRONG at the beginning only to fade away after you took the bait?
Have you been out together, bumped into his friends or family and NOT been introduced to them?
Does your guy SWITCH PERSONALITIES faster than the speed of light?
If any of the above are going on then you need to read The Red Flag Man ASAP!
Here I explain what's going on, why it's happening and what you should or should not do.
Looking forward to hearing your feedback!
Brenda
Monday, July 18, 2022
Here is the Forward to my NEWLY released book, writeen by Tova Weinberg, the book I have been promsing you, NOW available on AMAZON!
THE RED FLAG MAN
FYI, Tova Weinberg is an internationally renown matchmaker and was recently profiled in the New York Times!
Want to get smarter? Want to marry the right man? Then you must read the world's best summary of how to do it.
The book is called The Red Flag Man by Brenda Samuel. Brenda has fabulous idea of what NOT to and what TO look for in the right man.
Brenda has a smart analysis about the whole connection that can save you from being in a terrible relationship. It will teach you how to get out of a bad relationship and never duplicate it again.
I am a matchmaker and have been working as a matchmaker for 43 years, I use Brenda’s instinct and tactics of how to get rid of red flag men all the time when I talk to my clients about their bad relationships. The book teaches you the difference between men and women’s primary needs.
I have saved many couples from horrible relationships by telling them to read this book.
Every young woman should read this before attempting their first shot at a serious relationship.
This book makes very accurate portraits of the differences between men’s thinking and women’s thinking. This book as absolutely changed many of my single’s lives. Its has provided them with more self-awareness. The book also emphasizes the six primary unique love needs: Trust, acceptance, admiration, appreciation, approval, and encouragement.
It's imperative that women of all ages learn to recognize and take seriously the signs of an emotionally detrimental romantic situation.
Tova Weinberg
Thursday, July 7, 2022
- MY NEW BOOK IS OUT AND AVAILABLE ON AMAZON!
- Now you can finally order The Red Flag Man
- You will learn how to recognize and AVOID the guys who will cause you heartache!
A guide for women on who we should avoid and why, how to spot potential problems in a man or in his situation, and what will likely happen if things move forward anyway, as well as advice on what not to do in a relationship.
Wednesday, January 19, 2022
Ladies it is a sign of unhealthy, even co- dependant behavior, to allow yourself to be used or abused by another person.
Whether socially or personally, never try to excuse his bad behaviour or make excuses for him.
If his nature is to be hostile, rude, cheap, thoughtless, abusive, an abuser of substances, whatever, do not allow or excuse the behavior.
Eventually YOU will be the one to suffer!
Only a therapist can help someone like this and you are not his therapist!
Wednesday, December 22, 2021
Red Flag Man
Stop complaining and start paying attention to the Red Flags that ALWAYS present themselves within the first 15 minutes of meeting a person.
If you chose to ignore bad behavior or rotten character traits, thinking he would change for you, guess again!
So take the time to get to know a person and to recognize Red Flags and learn when to step away!
Wednesday, November 18, 2020

RED FLAG MAN
The Mama’s Boy
The Mama’s boy is that guy who is quite obviously over- involved with his mom.
A telling sign of mental health in a man is independent living with healthy levels of family contact and interaction.
It is healthy if he makes his own decisions.
It is unhealthy if he has a compulsion to consult with Mom before making basic life choices such as “what shall I order for lunch?” “where shall I go on vacation?” or “shall I continue to date this girl?”
While it is admirable when a man is respectful and considerate of his mom (and all of his family members), it is another matter entirely if he is overly connected to and compelled to include his mother or consult with his mother, in his daily life. It is a RED FLAG if he takes it to the extreme by including his mom in his dates, allowing his mom to interfere with his relationship or sharing details of his intimate, private life with her.
Can your boyfriend make an important purchase or decision without consulting his mother?
Does his mother wind up sometimes coming along on your dates?
Does he discuss the intimate details of your relationship with his mom?
Does his mom have a green light to drop in on him/you two, unannounced?
Does he compare you to his mom?
Does he mention his mom’s style of dressing, cooking, working out, etc?
Is he capable of committing to you despite the fact that you may not represent his mother’s ideal choice of a mate for him?
A man who has not been able to coast along without the constant interference, approval and consultation with his mother will not make a good husband or boyfriend in the long term.
The primary focus of a boyfriend or husband is supposed to be on his partner, not on pleasing his mother.
It is important that an adult partner is one who has launched. Visiting the nest occasionally is fine but running back to it or constantly seeking guidance from his parents is an indication that he is not fully functional as an adult. Most importantly it shows that he is not capable of running his own household or heading up his own family, as he lacks the self confidence to do so.
If your boyfriend wants to bring his mom along on some of your dates, live with or in very close proximity to his mom, regularly prioritize his mom’s needs and desires over yours, this is a big RED FLAG.
If this is the current situation, it is more likely than not to remain that way.
YOU are not going to change this dynamic.
Change comes from within a person and not from the pressure or demands of another. Even if he agrees to change the dynamic in order to keep you around, the change is unlikely to last unless he goes for therapy, and even then, there can be no guarantee.
The old adage “What you see is what you get” should be kept in mind if you are involved with a Mama’s boy.
Don’t accept second place. If he is a Mama’s boy, leave with grace.
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