Lately I have been getting emails from women reporting that
they have been in “open” and or “poly”
relationships, and now they
want to know how to get the guy to commit to them and them alone!
The answer here is - It'S TOO LATE!
These type of relationships are unhealthy in my opinion, and
can lead to low self esteem, loneliness and desperation.
A man is wired from time immemorial to go out there and
hunt/gather and to father as many offspring as possible. He will happily hop
from bed to bed until someone snares his heart.
A woman is wired to receive what her man brings and to create
a home with it.
She is wired to seek a stable male who will be a good provider
for the children they will bring into the world, and she is wired to connect emotionally
when she connects physically, which is nature’s way of ensuring an intact family unit will emerge.
Societal norms do change, but the wiring remains the same.
Therefore a woman can only end up miserable when she tries
out love with multiple partners because she will invariably wind up loving and
wanting monogamy from one of them.
Ladies, do not waste your time and your energy and your
young years with “open” and “Poly” relationships!
Love isn’t a sprint through
an amusement park with different rides and games.
Love is about finding a partner to connect with and share a
life with.
When you get yourself involved with multiple partners and
treat sex as a sport, the man will go along for the ride and will have a great time for sure!
However you will end up sad and lonely and wondering
why he is not content with focusing solely on you?
And the answer is, because
you allowed your body to be just another option.
He never had to work
to win you over.
As I have pointed out over and over in my blog, a man values
that which he has had to work hard to acquire.
A women handed to him
on a silver platter is of no value to him and winds up cast aside for a “real” challenge.
Wise up girls!
