Here’s a question I keep getting FROM MY READERS:
HOW DO I LET HIM KNOW THAT
I LIKE HIM?
My first answer is: WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO?
If there is a guy in your orbit that you are attracted to,
and interested in, but he hasn’t displayed any interest in you at all, then
guess what?
HE IS NOT INTO YOU.
If he was into you, you would know it, trust me.
I am not a believer in letting a guy know that you are interested
in him, because I believe doing that will have the opposite of the desired effect.
It most probably will push him away.
A man is wired from time immemorial to hunt and gather.
To
go out and get what he wants and needs.
If a female takes on the role of stalking her prey, by going
after a man, it kind of takes the wind out of his sales!
It does not entice
him.
It does not excite him.
Even knowing all of this, the readers of my Red Flag Man
Blog still want to know:
“Yeah but how can I
let him know I like him?”
If you want to indirectly indicate to a guy that you are
into him, that you are open to his approaching you, then my suggestion is to
make eye contact with him, give a small, mysterious little smile (think Mona
Lisa), and then lower your glance and look away.
This method delivers your message while keeping you classy
and alluring.
It invites him to do the work of pursuing you, based on that one
tiny little, but unmistakable hint.
Do this only ONE TIME.
That’s it.
He now has received and
processed the message that you like him.
But please, please, don’t do anything more than that!!
Don’t hand him your number.
Don’t stalk him.
Do not “accidentally” on purpose run into him!
Project to him and to the world that you are high value.
Your attention is in demand.
You don’t have time for just anybody and everybody because
you are busy, discerning, and you have high
standards.
You are around him because you work or go to school
together, but you are not necessarily available
to him.
If you have already made the mistake of flirting with him,
trying to make conversation with him, or God forbid, asking him out, then STOP
immediately, back off and ignore him!
He will have to do the work to get your attention and to find
out if you will accept him in your life.
At school or in the work place, just be your usual cute,
warm, smiley self.
It really is enough.
