So you meet a new
guy.
He is cute.
He is interested.
He calls you.
He texts you.
He asks you out.
So far, so good.
You are a hard worker.
You get up early and head over to
your office.
Or maybe you work from home
so you are on the computer focusing on your work most of the day.
Your guy seems to have lots of time on his hands…
He seems to be around a lot…
He goes to lunch..
He is also excessively interested in the details of YOUR
job. He asks you lots of questions about your work.
The first time Joy met Morris on the phone was when she
returned his phone call at 2pm mid-week. He answered the phone and let her know
that this wasn’t the ideal time for him to receive her call since he was in the
middle of reading a great novel…
Right there was a huge RED FLAG which she
ignored, to her own detriment.
They
eventually married and she wound up supporting him!!
He simply was not motivated to earn a living and loved to hang around the house.
He simply was not motivated to earn a living and loved to hang around the house.
He was totally
financially dependent on her and eventually the marriage fizzled along with her
finances.
Ginny noticed that her new guy Rob asked her lots of
questions about her job. He called all throughout the day with updates as to
his activities.
-He was in the mall checking out the sales.
-He was out for coffee at a popular new cafe
- heading over to the book store, etc…but he didn’t appear to actually get any work done.
-He was in the mall checking out the sales.
-He was out for coffee at a popular new cafe
- heading over to the book store, etc…but he didn’t appear to actually get any work done.
When Ginny finally raised an
eyebrow and questioned him as to what it was he actually did for a living, he told her he was working on a "start- up with
his buddy". However his “buddy “was a successful attorney with his own firm.
Whatever it was that Rob was doing was obviously not taking up too much of
his time.
Ginny finally put two and two together and realized that Rob’s
interest in the details and nuances of her job might just be his way of
confirming that she would be qualified to be the bread winner in their
relationship, should it go forward.
He was just doing his homework.
He was just doing his homework.
The moment she had that AH HAH moment she ended it with Rob.
You got a great guy, but how do you know he has a real job?
Ladies, if your guy is around a lot, If he finds the time to
call and text and shop and sip coffee while you are diligently focusing on your
tasks at work- this is a RED FLAG.
Please question him carefully and find out exactly what he
does for a living.
Unless he is a Trust Fund Baby with a pile of cash, please
don’t waste your time on him - its time to DASH!
If you don’t check that out
you may find yourself turning to the chapter in my upcoming book, RED
FLAG MAN, called The User/Loser.
You need a self-sufficient hard working boyfriend and
husband, not a leech.
Do your homework early and spare yourself the troubles you
will face if you hook up with a drifter.
